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Once
Hazrat Amir (R.A.) visited Hazrat Omer
(R.A.) in his house. He found him lying on a bed while the children were
playing on his chest, Amir felt this scene very heavy. Hazrat Omer realized his
reluctant feeling and asked him about his behavior with his children. Amir
told: When I enter the house, every one is dumb founded. H. Omer told very
gravely. Amir ! Even being a member of
Mohammedens, you are not cognizant of the kind and complacent behavior to be
shown towards the family.
A
child has to enjoy from his mother the right of milk, and this is the gratitude
which Quran has reminded us of, while stressing the need to behave the mother
in an extraordinarily pleasant way. The child is nurtured in his mother's belly
by her blood. This lucidity means that the child adopts the same mentality and
ideology that hover around the mind of the mother. So it is an ordained duty of
a mother to instill in her newborn the teaching of Allah and His Prophet
(P.B.U.H.) with every drop of milk. and to pour in his body the love of Prophet
(P.B.U.H.) and his religion in such a way that the dignity of Allah and love of
His Prophet (P.B.U.H.) are etched on his heart. The gusto and beatitude,
realized by a mother after accomplishing her job very well, may be appreciated
from those mother who train their children in a right direction.
Avoid
the inept handling of the children like frightening them because the fright of
the initial age may extend to all the span of his life, and such frightened
children come short in the life. The boys are scared by repeated interruptions
and reproach for trivial reasons. On the contrary, through a benevolent
behaviour with the children, the feeling of obedience emanates in them. Really
the children are a support to their parents, a prestige to the family and an
asset to all human being.
The
life of the parents may be likened to a sky, which keeps them under its blue
umbrella. If they make some demand. it should be conceded generously, and if
they are dejected, their dejection should be dispelled. Don't be so
insufferable burden on them that they get monotonous of your life and look
after your premature demise, and keep you away from them in place of keeping
you adherent to them.
Carry
your children in your lap, kiss them and pass your hand on their heads
according to their age and rank. If the parents are rigid and strict. initially
the boys get scared, then they begin to hate their parents. A sincere and
profuse love leads them to self confidence and leave healthy hearings upon their
natural growth. Don't lose your children and don't take them for a burden upon
you. Don't link the financial paucity to the presence of your children.
Allah says:
"Don't kill your children for the fear of
strait. We provide them and you both".
In
deed, your righteous children are the tools to keep up your cultural
traditions, religious teachings and the message of Monotheism, and the only
inpetus for a believer behind his desire to be blessed with a good child is
that his heir shall keep the message of the Prophet (P.B.U.H.) alive.
Don't
count the shortcomings of your children in the presence of others and don't put
them to shame. It is your responsibility to safeguard their self respect. Don't
expose to them that you have given up the hope of their rectification, because
this declaration either may result in their inferiority complex or lead to
their fury, perturbation and obstinacy under the pretext that when they are
unable to be rectified, it is better for them to be pertinacious in their bad
habits. Naturally the boys are interested in stories and that stories occupy
their minds. So you should narrate regularly to them the stories of the
Prophets, Hajeological biographies and the salient deeds of the followers of
the Prophet (P.B.U.H.) and the Muslim warriors, and rehear the same from them.
Allocate for them a bit of your time despite your numerous engagement. When you
find your children in a pleasant temperament, you should describe to them that
the prophet (P.B.U.H.) had passionate affection towards the children, and that
his face was turning reddish, as a sign of delight, whenever he saw a child.
Once
happened that the Prophet (P.B.U.H.) was kissing Hazrat Hassan (A.S.). A
Bedouin was much astonished to see this, He told: Do you kiss? I have ten
children but I never kissed any one. The impression of displeasure appeared on
the face of prophet (P.B.U.H.) and He told: What I can do if Allah has driven
off the mercy and pity from your heart?
The
Undue affection and love paves way for children to obduracy and arrogance. Try
judiciously to put an end to this habit instead Of conceding their all due or
undue demands.
Allah
does not like a loud and stentorian voice. Don't yell before the children in
such a manner that they misconceive this odd behavior for a good habit. If the
parents talk politely, the accent of the children shall tend automatically to
be polite and sweet.
Pursuade
them to do their works with their own hands. The reliance on the servants
creates in the children lethargy and dynamism, and they fail to rise to the
occasions. Such boys are not generally industrious and hard working.
Occasionally
you should charge them to give the poorer and other miserable categories foods,
money or clothes so that the sympathetic feeling towards the down-trodden may
emanate in them. you should share them their food and fetch them the morsels.
You should also advise them to do the same with their brothers and sisters.
This habit shall strengthen in the children the consciousness of popular Rights
and social justice.
Allah
has declared it obligatory to distribute honestly and the daughters ' shares
among them. We are not authorized to subject their share to any minus or plus
amendment. Any frustration or procrastination to give the daughters their
legitimate share is synonymous to treason and disrespect to the Divine
Religion.
The
prayers of parents are accepted in favor
of their children irrespective of their nature. It is the habit of parents to
pray for their children from their deep hearts while Allah, the Merciful, the
benevolent, does not undo any prayer, emanating from the depth of the heart.
KHWAJA SHAMS-UD-DEEN AZEEMI
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, THE MERCIFUL, THE BENEVOLENT
Dedicated to those scientists, who are inching towards the cognizance of the facts, spotlighted by Allah Almighty, in the wake of their intelligent observation for the top vertex of scientific achievement, which is not other than the "Disastrous end of the Universe". And this is probably during 15th century of Lunar calendar.
